A little more than a month ago, I broke up with my boyfriend. It was one of those things where I was completely blind to all the wrongs that were happening during our relationship, or all the wrongs he was doing to me. I was putting myself beneath him to keep him, and in the process he lost respect for me, and worse, I lost respect for myself. I hated the way our relationship ended, because I left the relationship lost and defeated. I was able to keep all of that at bay and out of my thoughts and I was moving on. Until recently, I stumbled upon a post on facebook where a mutual friend had quoted him, it was the most tasteless, arrogant, and blindly ignorant comment I have ever read.
This is what it said:
“It’s funny that people these days are obsessed with how people view their lives when it comes to sex. Yes we get it, you’ve had sex and you’re proud, you’ve put your fingers into the walking sperm banks of London. Cool. But honestly, if that’s your objective for life… I mean who wants to go around listening to some London asshole going “Oi bruv, I got wit this girl yea, she was so wet yea” then going “yea and I’m gonna have a big house and car and I can take care of my slag” (fuck you kid). You want to have a nice house, nice car, have someone respectable? That requires money. Money requires work. Work requires education. Education requires work. Trying to ‘get’ with people all day every day won’t get you a nice house or a nice car. Now I’m not saying that all of that shit with you idiots is especially bad all of the time, but everything in moderation. Do it, but when you’ve worked your ass off. Cause honestly, no respectable girl wants a guy who assess off all day trying to get with other slags 24/7. They want someone successful and secure. Not saying all girls are respectable, but usually the ones that aren’t are just as much of a slag as you, and your friends.”
At first I couldn’t really tell what angered me so much about this post, aside from it being blindingly stupid. After reading it, I felt like it was day one after the break up, again I was angry and frustrated. I realized that I was angry because he was still cocky, and boasting, when his self esteem should have been broken like mine was. Maybe I expected him to be grounded given the circumstances of our breakup, clearly I was mistaken. At first I was going to ignore the post and let it slide, but I later realized it wouldn’t be enough. I wanted my redemption. I wanted my respect back, and I wanted him to know how little I thought of him.
So I responded to his post, and may I say it was the best thing I’ve ever done:
"Your perspective on people is very stereotypical. Sure there are some that behave the way you mentioned, I’ll give you that, but does it call for you to categorize people in London as the “London asshole”? It seems a little unfair and no offense, but you are the last person to judge others. Especially since you yourself don’t follow the advice you’re giving them. As far as I remember, you have no intention of seeking a higher education, unless the Air Force requires you to. Yes work requires education, but I don’t see you getting one. Also, judging by the fact that (mutual friend) posted this I’m assuming you two are together, meaning someone had to pay for your plane ticket, and I know it wasn’t you. It’s true “money requires work” but I don’t see you working for it. My favorite thing you said so far, is how to get a respectable girl, which clearly, you know most about. Considering you called your ex girlfriend a slut for no apparent reason, and also told her it wouldn’t be beneath her to “suck a guy off” in the bathroom. Yes being “successful and secure” may get you a respectable girl, but maybe you should learn a thing or two about respect first.
Now don’t get me wrong here, I’m not trying to pick a fight. I’ll just call out a hypocrite when I see one.”
His friend deleted the entire post. I think I made my point.